I had white Kenneth Cole heels that I wore for my 6th grade graduation. They were beautiful. I wanted to wear them again after graduation but my Mom didn’t think that they were appropriate for a normal school day.
Fall rolled around and I just knew that I could wear them to my new junior high school. Not! “You can’t wear those after Labor Day,” is what my Mom said. Like all other rules that your parents tell you to abide by, the no white after Labor Day rule made no sense to me, but I just went along with it. Moms know best, right?
Our mothers mean well. Besides, a lot of traditional fashion rules have been passed down from generation to generation.
Now, I realize how ridiculous a lot of these rules are so I have created my own set that work for me:
-No Sandals in the winter without socks.
-Never compromise on the fit of your clothing.
-The law of least effort works. If your clothes fit correctly and are stylish,
you never have to try too hard!
-Doubt means no. If you’re unsure of what you’re wearing, you should probably take it off and try something else.
-Quality fabrics go a long way.
What are some of your fashion rules? Share them with us!
The term frenemies has to come from somewhere, right? I was talking to a young lady the other day who said her best friend outed her to her ex for cheating. What?! No loyalty?
Then there are my personal experiences with friends. There’s the one who tried to pursuit a relationship with my ex-boyfriend, the others who tried to control who I could be friends with and of course we can’t forget the one who hacked my Facebook page!
Fast forward from last year to now – what a great year! I got the balls to finally give my business 100%, got an office space in DC’s Atlas District, interviewed the designers from Rag & Bone, produced a cool event (Girls Night In DC), and got engaged – and there are plenty other milestones that I have left out but you get the point.
While all of this is happening, I should be celebrating with my friends, right? Wrong. I feel like I walk on eggshells in most of my friendships ( not all!). I am truly happy but know that I have to water a few things down or keep certain things to myself, in order to maintain the friendships that I do have left.
Then I realized, “WTF kind of friendships are those and do you really want that for yourself?”. The answer is that I don’t. I want real friends or none at all. I know that there are some cool girls somewhere who want the same – this post is for you.
If you want the real thing like I do, here are 5 types of friends that you should drop ASAP:
1.) The #1 Fan
This friend wants to be you at all costs. Hair, clothes, boyfriend – hell, she may even copy your thoughts. The sad part is that she may not even notice this about herself. She wants to learn how to be like you – so what you thought was a nice girls dinner was really a learning session for her. She might even have a shrine of you in her home, or feel inclined to nurse your new born baby ( Hand That Rocks the Cradle 2014?).
Why You Should Drop Her: You should only partake in healthy friendships where the other person truly loves who they are – anything else can lead to major problems down the road. Besides, celebrating each other’s difference is what makes friendship special!
2.) The Emotional Vampire
There’s a pity party and you’re invited!Take your vitamins before you talk to this one because she will suck the life out of you with her drama. She only calls you to complain about everything that’s going wrong in her life. Before you can share your trials, she’s hung up and dialed the next friends’ number for her next over-the-phone sob session.
Why You Should Drop Her: She does not care about you or anything that’s going on in your life. Her idea of friendship is having an abundance of shoulders to cry on. She also goes missing when her life is perfect. Who needs that kind of inconsistency in their lives?
3.) I’ve Got a Man So….Peace!
When she gets a significant other, she doesn’t pick up phone calls, deactivates her FB account, and goes missing for months on end. You know she’s broken up because she’ll send a “Hey, Girl!” text message out of the blue. She can be a combo of an Emotional Vampire as well. Uh oh…
Why You Should Drop Her: Friendship is a two-way street that no man should get in the way of. When you need her, she’s never there and will create tons of excuses as to why – but if Beyonce can be married to Jay-Z, mother to Blue Ivy and on world tour and still make time for Kelly, so can she!
4.) The Part-Time Envious Friend
She’s only your friend 2-3 days out of the week. She spends the rest of her time “hating in secrecy” on why things always go so much better for you than for her.
Why You Should Drop Her: Out of all of the types of friends to drop, I believe that this one could be salvaged if she wasn’t always comparing herself to everyone 24/7. This type of friend will never be happy unless she’s at the top – which is why her closest friends are usually not as intelligent, beautiful or as successful as she is. Boo.
5.) The Social Climber
She thinks you’re nice and cool but she’s really here to see “who you become”. She’s extremely strategic with her approach to friendship and aligns herself with people who can be of use to her one day. She’s the friend who always asks a ton of questions which poor you thinks is genuine concern. Not from her! She is trying to get in where she can fit in and understand what you have and where you’re going. Although she’s the hardest to pickup on, just pay attention to how she treats others – that’s your telltale sign!
Why You Should Drop Her: When you become that world star that we all know that you will be, she will sell your deepest, darkest secrets to the Enquirer and US Weekly. Ain’t nobody got time for that!
I receive ton of emails from women (some bloggers too) about wanting to achieve edgier styling. This look made me think of how simple these styles are to achieve. PHere are a few tips that I want to share with you:
1) Keep your color palette neutral. The only bold colors that you should have are accent pieces or makeup items (like lipstick).
2) Play around with layering. Challenge yourself to find a few different ways to wear your favorite pieces. You’ll be surprised and pleased by the things you come up with!
3) Embrace imperfection! Holes, burn outs, bleach stains and ripped clothing are grunge staples. The more character, the better – so don’t throw those distressed boots away!
Today, I’m wearing the Destroyed Graphic Print tee and Everything Rosey pencil skirt from Free People. The boots are Jeffrey Campbell and the faux leather bra is from Forever 21.
As always, if you have any more questions on how to put things together or are interested in scheduling a personal shopping session, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
It’s been 3 months of awesome. In April, I took my talents part-time to Free People Pentagon City as a senior stylist.
What does that title consist of you say? I do the same personal shopping work that I do with Glamour Commander but with a twist. Customers can schedule appointments in-store or drop-in for advice or personal styling for Free People looks.
The service is free and so helpful! There’s a pyrotechnic quality to the relationship that I have with customers there. We make solutions and – boom! We develop their personal style with out-of-the box pieces and – bang! The customer leaves with a stronger concept of their style and major confidence and – pow!
I love what I do at Glamour Commander and Free People. It’s more than personal shopping. When you look good you feel great. When you feel great, you do great things.
Make sure to stop by or schedule an appointment with me at email@example.com. I also post a Senior Stylist “Pick of the Week” every Sunday/Monday via the store Instagram (@freepeoplepentagoncity). Here’s a few pics of past picks:
Here’s one of my favorite customers in a look that I styled for her concert date:
Okay, I’m guilty. I have that necklace too and love it! I hope to see you soon – we can pick some things that you’ll love too!
The GC is filming a mini fashion documentary! In less than a minute, the film will go behind the scenes of founder/owner, Chela and her life. Shot by Andy Fernandez, it’s sure to be highly detailed and fresh. We’ll have more info on the premiere soon -stay tuned, Glams!
Are you as excited as we are, DC?!
We’re a month away from the DC Girls Citywide Scavenger Hunt!
Complete fun missions with your team of friends, enjoy good eats at our Yards Park barbecue. Will your team win Sephora gift cards and dinner on us?
Hurry, team space is limited. C
Visit mkt.com/glamour-commander-consulting to purchase your ticket – only $18/per person!
May the odds be in your favor!